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Posted by Qind on Mar 10, 2013

The Death knell of desire and excitement?

We present two classic films that explore the need for excitement and novelty in committed relationships. Those who have watched the TED talk by Esther Perel, might appreciate the tenets of creating space and seeing your partner in a different in Facing Window. At the climax, our protagonist gains a new found perspective once she looks back on the life she has created a distance from and realises what she...

Posted by Qind on Mar 10, 2013

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

For those who have trepidation for the assumed inevitable death knell of sexual desire and excitement in committed relationships. Good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? The very charismatic social scientist, Esther Perel shares some cool tools of erotic intelligence to keep fires going. There are many nuggets...

Posted by Qind on Mar 10, 2013

The Vulnerability of Penetration – Jamie Catto, UK

Jamie Catto explores the vulnerability of penetration, encouraging all parties involved to open themselves up and actively give of themselves to the experience, and actually going as far as to switch and try each other’s roles in order to be come more connected. Written from the perspective of a female-male context, it is a concept relevant to all involved in an active-passive penetrative sex...

Posted by Qind on Mar 8, 2013

What is My Responsibility

We share a clip from one of Eckhart Tolle’s sessions as he explores the concept of responsibility and the extension of it when it comes to the individual. We present it with the incomparable images of the Namib Desert captured by Mario Gerth. Source: Eckhart Tolle Visual Narrative: Mario...

Posted by Qind on Mar 7, 2013

Incidents in the life of a Slave Girl

Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl by Harriet Jacobs is a powerful autobiography that presents the harrowing experience of a young woman under the yoke of American slavery and her long, costly and determined march to freedom. It is a narration of innate intelligence, elegance and nobility that dwells far above the savage institution that in pure irony referred to her as one of a race of savages. Below...

Posted by Qind on Mar 7, 2013

Dare To Educate The Girl Child

A poignant TED talk by Shabana Basil-Rasikh on the challenges of educating girls in Afghanistan and the importance of men who respect the right’s of women in this struggle. It is a story of men who respect their womenfolk and realise the need to create a space for them to be the best that they can be for the benefit of all. Imagine a country where girls must sneak out to go to school, with deadly...

Posted by Qind on Mar 7, 2013

The Impolitic of Masculine Only

A brief opinion on the gay male obsession with the concept of ‘Masculine Only’. There is a deep sense of disrespect and ingratitude which rises and encircles every gay man who proudly declares on profiles and abroad, ‘masculine only’, ‘no effeminate’. Beyond the rancour of these statements, they seem quite oblivious or choose to forget the depth of their indebtedness to...

Posted by Qind on Jan 25, 2013

Being Disruptive from Heart Mountain – Jamie Catto, UK

A blog post from Jamie Catto theorising on the art of pulling back the layers so as to have more genuine interactions with those around you. I am a provoker and a disruptor, a wind-up merchant and a tail puller, a prodder and a poker. When I meet someone’s ‘appropriate’ mask my first impulse is to want to dance with them to the edge of their ‘appropriate’ version of...